As I was sitting in front of my TV, cables in hand, frustrated and wondering why it no longer wants to recognize the cable box or video game system while preparing for the inevitable gamer melt-down from my kids, I started pondering and wondering “What is this “carefree” thing? What does it mean?”
According to Merriam-Webster, carefree is “free from care” or “having no worries or troubles”.
Sounds great, doesn’t it?
So what exactly is this “carefree” thing?
We’re taught we must care and worry about everything…our sneakers, what shade of white our teeth are, our coffee brand, that Mom at school that seems to have it all together, what pretty much everything says about us, how we appear to people we may never see again, where our kids are developmentally at any given moment relative to the statistical norm, our car and whether it’s good enough, the sweet but seriously uneducated old lady next door and the latest goings-on of the celebrity of the week that you HAVE to know in detail on several different social platforms if you don’t want to be “out of the loop”.
We really worry about a lot of “stuff” we don’t need to. Ok. Maybe the car one is a little important but really, what will worrying accomplish? When you’re carefree you don’t worry about things that really don’t matter. You’re chill and let things happen without getting stressed over it and deal with things as they happen. You might decide to go to that big game you really wanted to see and not worry about the consequences of spending what little money you have on that ticket. While you’re there you might enjoy the game so much you end up kissing the person sitting next to you when a great goal is scored. So what if you get a death stare from their date! It’s all good!
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” –Dalai Lama XIV
Thank you Your Holiness.
Being carefree doesn’t mean being irresponsible and sleeping until next Tuesday or sticking flowers in your hair and glitterbombing the next poor person you see or even saying “the Hell with it all” and running away to sip frappes at a little blue table in an adorable fishing village by the beach of a pretty Greek island….though they all sound great….especially that last one. It just means that even though there might be a thousand stresses in your life, you don’t let things get to you. You decide whether to let all the chaos in your life worry and upset you and whether they’re even worth it. Speaking from my own personal observations, the vast majority of the time, the things we stress about just aren’t worth it.
In the words of the great Bobby McFerrin….
Benefits of being carefree
Being carefree can have a lot of benefits.
- You have a greater ability to handle and adapt to the challenges that life throws at you.
- You’re in a better mood which has a huge benefit to your relationships. Who would you rather be with, a stressed-out grumpy person or someone who’s happy?
- It improves your mental health and leaves you less prone to falling into a depression.
- It frees your mind to be more creative, making problems easier to solve.
- You won’t be so bogged down over-thinking the “what-ifs” that you’ll be more open to opportunities. You might even be more likely to take that opportunity and have something great happen.
Any ideas on how to be more carefree?
I’m so glad you asked! There are lots of ways and these are just some of them.
- Don’t take on everyone else’s problems. You have enough of your own to deal with. If you can help the person, great. If not….
- As cliche as it sounds, remind yourself that this too will pass. It will. Life is a bumpy road and there’s no point driving yourself crazy over every bump. No one has that much sanity to spare.
- Don’t hide from or lock up your thoughts and feelings. Open the cage door. They’ll flap around for a bit and then fly away and you’ll feel better.
- Find the good/funny/amazing in things instead of obsessively looking for the bad in a situation. Everything has two sides, why look at only one?
- Find something good or new in the small things. Have you ever really looked at a dew drop on a blade of grass or breathed in the amazing smell after it’s cut? When you’re stuck in traffic have you ever considered the feat of engineering it took to move as many people and vehicles through that part of town as it does?
- Be curious. It’s okay to not know something and even better to discover something.
- Get creative or noisy. Dance and sing to your favourite song. Paint a wall a fun colour. It’s just paint! Don’t like it, change it. Make a big silly piece of art and display it like it belongs in The Louvre.
- Come up with the biggest craziest dream you can and then plan it out in detail. Make it as real as you can, make a collage or online scrapbook about it. It doesn’t have to come true, just have fun with it.
- Play with a komboloi…or any other fidget toy. The act of moving the beads and playing with it gives your mind something else to think about for a minute. It’s amazing how much things can improve if you take a minute to change gears.
Carefree with komboloi?
So what does all this have to do with komboloi…you know, the thing this blog is about?
I’m glad you asked!
Instead of a “just the facts” kind of blog (because honestly, that could get a little boring), I decided to write posts that embody one of the most important purposes of a komboloi. To help you be carefree!
Though there will be some “just the facts” type of posts, for the most part I want to write posts that take you away from your worries. Most of these will be fun and maybe (ok, very likely) silly. There might be the odd thought-provoking post as well. When you play with komboloi, you never really know where your mind might go so long as it takes you to a place that helps you release your cares and worries, and hopefully this blog will too.
From another man wise in the ways of being carefree…..
I hope you’ll stay around and see where this blog goes and enjoy what you’re reading.
What do you think of where this blog is headed?
Do you have any tips or stories on being carefree?
I would love to hear them. Please share below.
End note: I shut off the power to the TV and assorted peripherals and walked away for half and hour. When I came back, the TV magically found the game system again. Crisis averted.